A couple of years ago I made a resolution to be kind not nice. So many people thought ‘well aren’t they the same thing’ but you’re right, they are so different. Being kind can be much harder, but it’s so worthwhile!
Nice and Kind are very very different energies. Being from Minnesota where people claim “Minnesota Nice” we know that energy is laced with sarcasm and secrecy. Whereas Kindness is upfront, honest, and gushing with goodness.
Rather than confronting another adult, I have a tendency to try to build up the person being hurt. But we all know how many positive responses we have to receive to get over the negative - and sometimes they’re just not enough. So maybe I shouldn’t be so nice?
I wish others had made more of an effort to build me up after I was hurt. I did do that for my nephew in both of these cases. Quietly, just between me and him.
Ohhhh I LOVED this. I cried reading of your nephew. I feeeeel those two instances sooooo deeply. More than I can put into words.
The little bit of courage at asserting one’s creativity or autonomy as a deeply sensitive soul, and then having it squashed so far down with shame that it remains a frozen (nICE) and unloved part for decades. The abject loss of self-trust along the way.
No one’s fault, just programs and conditioning that have ran for generations and how woooonderful that we now get to love, integrate, and heal those parts AND alleviate future generations of such fragmented bits of spirit. 🥹💫🪄✨
Suzy, whenever your name appears in my feed, as a comment or as your own post or note, I get a little flutter of happies. and of course you felt my nephew's feels as if they were your own. I wouldn't imagine any less from you.
those damn programs and conditionings that have run for generations can be so stifling! and when we work through them and figure out how to EXPRESS it is so healing. and the healing is the living!
This was really interesting. We use nice a lot in the UK. Have a nice time is a common expression. I’m going to stop saying it! I’ll say “have a lovely time” instead.
Your nephew story saddened me because all I could picture was a defeated little boy that looked like my son 😒 Kids creativity should be nurtured.
I always use that phrase "kill them with kindness." I'm curious what you'll write about the letter K someday. I'm a KK.
Well then, I guess I know what I'm writing about next week. K is a great sound!
A couple of years ago I made a resolution to be kind not nice. So many people thought ‘well aren’t they the same thing’ but you’re right, they are so different. Being kind can be much harder, but it’s so worthwhile!
Nice and Kind are very very different energies. Being from Minnesota where people claim “Minnesota Nice” we know that energy is laced with sarcasm and secrecy. Whereas Kindness is upfront, honest, and gushing with goodness.
Rather than confronting another adult, I have a tendency to try to build up the person being hurt. But we all know how many positive responses we have to receive to get over the negative - and sometimes they’re just not enough. So maybe I shouldn’t be so nice?
I wish others had made more of an effort to build me up after I was hurt. I did do that for my nephew in both of these cases. Quietly, just between me and him.
Don't be so nice. Be KIND.
Ohhhh I LOVED this. I cried reading of your nephew. I feeeeel those two instances sooooo deeply. More than I can put into words.
The little bit of courage at asserting one’s creativity or autonomy as a deeply sensitive soul, and then having it squashed so far down with shame that it remains a frozen (nICE) and unloved part for decades. The abject loss of self-trust along the way.
No one’s fault, just programs and conditioning that have ran for generations and how woooonderful that we now get to love, integrate, and heal those parts AND alleviate future generations of such fragmented bits of spirit. 🥹💫🪄✨
Woooonderful writing and wisdom, as ever.🪄👌🏻🤓
Suzy, whenever your name appears in my feed, as a comment or as your own post or note, I get a little flutter of happies. and of course you felt my nephew's feels as if they were your own. I wouldn't imagine any less from you.
those damn programs and conditionings that have run for generations can be so stifling! and when we work through them and figure out how to EXPRESS it is so healing. and the healing is the living!
I love you dear friend.
Oh BUT RIGHT BACK AT YOU!
Yes! Those dang programs and conditionings! It’s quite journey uprooting and discarding them.
Love you too TeriLeigh. Sooooo much x x x💜💟🎆
This was really interesting. We use nice a lot in the UK. Have a nice time is a common expression. I’m going to stop saying it! I’ll say “have a lovely time” instead.